How to get over a heartbreak and move on fast: 10 ways to heal your heart and move on fast

 

1. Lean into your feelings

Although it's easier said than done, staying present and feeling your emotions (both the highs and the lows) is pivotal to healing after heartbreak. “Pretending you are OK will only intensify the sadness," Joondeph-Breidbart said. "Reach out for support whether it’s with a therapist or a support group that focuses on breakups, depression and/or loneliness."

Remember that it's normal to feel like you're on an emotional rollercoaster. “You will be a ball of conflicting emotions, one minute you might feel sad and another angry or guilty. 

2. Focus on self-compassion, not self-esteem

Be kind to yourself throughout the healing journey.

3. Turn to others

Support is vital for healing emotional pain and letting people in allows you to do this, you have to be willing to be vulnerable and accept help from others.

But sometimes, it can be difficult if "individuals feel like they are crawling back to their friends that they left for their relationship." This behavior shouldn't stand in your way, though: If someone who you were once close with reaches out amid a breakup, you would likely show up for them. Remember the same applies in your situation.

4. Pursue your interests

It may be tough to snap yourself out of the ice cream and rom-com cocoon, but it will help catapult you on the road to feeling better. Go back to the things that brought you joy before the breakup or explore new passions. By engaging in your interests, you will feel fulfilled outside your ex and will likely make connections with new people.

5. Make time for new hobbies

It's a fresh start, so you might as well open yourself up to new experiences. As sad as a breakup might be, it can be a chance of revival. Picking up new hobbies, starting new classes, or moving to a new city can be ways to refresh ourselves and allow for continued internal growth. 

6. Block your ex on social media

Speaking of blank slates, make sure your digital presence reflects your newfound singledom. Blocking your ex on social media is a healthy coping mechanism. When you see your ex, even just on social media, your brain gets a hit of dopamine (the feel-good hormone). After that initial rush, you might feel anxious, sad or even impulsive.

7. Give yourself grace

There’s a reason why this expression is uttered during life's most difficult moments. Grace moves the needle in the right direction — away from the blame game, and onto embodying an empathetic, strong version of wonderful you.

8. Keep the focus on yourself

This is a time for deep contemplation, not a time for agonizing over your ex’s every move. “Do not stress about what the other person did or how what they did was unfair or wrong. When we focus too much on the other person, we do not bring our awareness to our role in the breakup.

9. Don't judge yourself in the process

Let’s make it a judgement-free zone, folks.

I have heard many individuals express that they feel pathetic for feeling such intense heartbreak for their ex. Heartbreak is supposed to be painful. When you judge yourself for feeling intensely, you start cutting off emotions that you have to face for your healing.

10. Try to limit the advice you get from others 

Yes, leaning on friends and family during this time is important, but getting too much advice from others can be dizzying. They are trying to help and be supportive but they are likely speaking from their own experience and that is not always helpful.